HABESHA & GRIEF

This might come off as unorthodox to the overly defensive stance we’ve built over the years, but it doesn’t shred anything to question and criticize culture if and when necessary. Perhaps there’s an unwritten rule declaring that however degrading and toxic our culture gets we must never question it.

A community with an authentic and adhesive culture evolving for uncountable years has it’s deficits too. Shocking? No not really.

What are these so called deficits you ask? Quite a good bunch.

Of the number of things I observed, here’s one

, the grieving process and how “we” console those with loss.

Grief is a personal experience and journey, there are no and shouldn’t be objective laws and regulations stating someone should grieve for this long and heal in that year.

In a society where confronting your demons and going through your emotions portrays you as over dramatic, it’s not surprising to be rushed out of your grief and be a normal functioning person in a few days. The paradox here? If you grieve and change your closet into an all black for more than a few months you’re being too much and taking things far and in the same boat if you decide to live your normal life after a week or a month of your loss you’re still being too much. Again grief is a personal experience, you can’t tell what’s going on in the heart and mind of both who grieve for years and those who go about their lives in a short while.